Helping a family member cope up with mental disease.


According to wikipedia, A mental disorder also called a mental illness or psychiatric disorder, is a behavioral or mental pattern that causes significant distress or impairment of personal functioning.Such features may be persistent, relapsing and remitting, or occur as a single episode. Many disorders have been described, with signs and symptoms that vary widely between specific disorders. Such disorders may be diagnosed by a mental health professional.


There are various ways in which you can help your family member deal with his illness. Here are the Dos and Dont’s :


1. Turn his negatives into positives.    

(Will help in changing his perspective)

2. Ensure he is taking his medicines

3. Treat him as normal as others

(will help them not feel left out)

4. Take help of doctor if the patient has down syndrome, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, etc

( Cause these patients can behave violently)

5. Prepare his favorite food, play his favorite game with him, watch a movie with him and keep him happy 

( of course, with precautions considering the type of disease he has)

6. At the end of the day, talk to him about his day, how he is feeling and tell him that you love him and will support him in his journey of dealing with mental illness

(btw also seriously help him don’t say it for the sake of saying lol )




1. Yelling, teasing, dissing, shouting, beating, and being sarcastic

( his health is more important than your ego)

2. Behaving extremely different.

( change in your behavior towards him can lead to him doubting you all the time)

3. Keeping him in the house/ one room all the time

( going for a walk with him, making him feel free to unknown people and socializing, will help to make him feel safer. but you need to talk to the doctor about the precautions you keep in mind about his particular illness)

4.Keeping him away from his loved and trusted person.

( it can be his friend, his college or his cousin, don’t try to keep him away from them.He will mostly not harm them since he is receiving treatment and is in the recovery process. Being with his trusted people will help him feel happy and safe)

5. Always lecture about his problem

( suggesting things is good but only at that time when he is just a few steps behind being fully recovered. Until then, follow the doctor’s recommendation.)

6 Suggest illogical solutions

( it will not help)

Lastly, he needs your love and support.

He is going through a rough phase. You will never know how he is feeling. Mental diseases and physical diseases have a lot of differences. Never abandon or leave a family member JUST BECAUSE he has a mental disease.


we are not doctors but these techniques are very logical and are written on basis of various psychological theories. To be fully sure of what you should be doing, contact the doctor.

All the best

How to deal with someone who is about to cry.


It always happens that when a sensitive topic comes up, there is a person who just can’t stop the tears. They try to hide it but their eyes swell and you know they are about to cry. But most of the time, the people around them don’t know how to handle this situation and end up being more awkward in front of them.

So these are tips to handle a “cry situation” :

1. Say “Aww don’t cry..” and keep your hand on their shoulders :

  • Doing this will either lead to two things – the person will cry more or just joke it out saying “oh I’m not crying OK”.
  • For the first response, you can just hug the person and he will eventually stop crying further.
  • For the second response, the person will handle his tears himself as his response itself tells he can’t cry in front of others.

2. Change the topic:

  • The best way out is to change the topic.
  • Like for eg you are in your friend circle and you all are talking about your mother but there is one person who does not have a mother. So he will get uncomfortable or sad or even feel like crying if he’s talking. If this happens, you change the topic to, “oh leave this topic, you know what happened yesterday?” and say it with the same excitement or more excitement than the earlier topic. It will help the person get distracted by the curiousness for the new topic.

3. Share your sorrow too:

  • Say “yes even my father abused me”. This will make the “crier” open up more and speak himself out.
  • Like he might say “I know right! and my father also did….” then you say “yes but you know what, let’s leave this. I mean, I have moved on now and you should do it too.”
  • Knowing that he/she is not the only one in sorrow, will help him/her relax about his situation.
  • You can fake share too if the person is not a good friend or is not expected to meet you again. Like a person, you met on the train, on the road etc.

4. Offer a tissue :

  • This is a great gesture and works well with girls. She will laugh at that gesture and change the topic on her own or handle herself on her own. In another scenario, she would cry more
  • By the way, notice how the person in 1st point and the 4th point will act in 2 same possible ways. DIDN’T I TELL YOU GIRLS AND BOYS ARE THE SAME? huh. I had said the same on This blog

5. Joke it off :

  • You can joke off the topic to make the crying person laugh. It will make them smile and they will calm themselves down.

6. Let them cry :

  • Sometimes crying is good for emotional health.
  • If he/she is crying, let them do so.
  • If you all are in a friend circle, DEFIANTLY let them talk and cry and speak themselves out. Sometimes they just need a person to talk to.
  • If you are in an unknown or less known group, check the crier’s actions and his mental level of comfort with the group. eg usually girls open up to girls and boys open up to boys.
  • So, yeah, in an unknown group it depends on how much safe the crier sees the group.


7. Put your hand on their shoulder and say “Hey, you can overcome this” :

  • Confronting them with motivational sentences will help them get over the negatives more easily.