How to understand women..


Women and their minds are complex. Thus, “women are difficult to understand” is often quoted. If we want to understand women, we need to understand why they behave in a certain way and how to deal with it…

Here’s how you can understand women…

1. Just like men like beautiful women, women like handsome men.

This is why when an ugly man approaches them, they retaliate. They hate ugly men. DEAL WITH THIS. But this ugly men theory applies most of the time for strangers. If she’s your office mate, college mate, etc then she would be okay to talk to you. She will befriend you but you won’t be her first choice as a “lover”. She might come back to you if she’s betrayed and realizes you were better but that only proves my point that you’re not her first choice if you’re ugly.

2. Most of them like men who give them freedom.

Although it is up to the personal choice of a woman who she would choose as a partner, most of them like guys which let them speak, let them be free and independent and most of all – which can love them and keep them happy. Just take the example of a dad (because for a woman, a dad is her favorite man on this planet)

A dad loves his daughter, a dad protects her, a dad even lets her take a stand, lets her do what she wants and let her act childish. Women like to express themselves a lot. They like to dress up, go shopping or even like to do guy-like things. In their eyes, they should not be said that “you are a woman, you should not do this”. This is when they will get angry (anybody will).

Bottom line: don’t underestimate their capabilities and let them express themselves in front of you or even the world.

3.They like to joke and fool around.

Yes, they do!! But the world just magically assumes that a woman can’t be funny. But they can! Sometimes they just wanna joke with you. You can tell that by their face – happy face with curious eyes and smile. They like to touch and slap you just for fun. Nothing wrong with that. So next time you see a girl joking around, just be normal! she likes to joke and just because she’s joking, does not mean she wants to sleep with you.

This is the most important thing which guys misunderstand. You may say that “oh, of course, I know this” but in reality, you fall in love with her the moment she smiles. But she was just willing to joke around like a normal person. And that’s why girls always ask “Why do you love me?” because, in their eyes, they were just being normal. Joking around like a normal person.

You should not fall for her only because of her beauty or her body(women should also not do this to men). Women like people who also recognize their work and achievements more than their beauty.

4. Most of the time she’s NOT ASKING FOR IT.

Many people have wrong notions that if a woman exposes skin, behaves like men, or does other “unusual” things, she’s asking for it. No! she’s doing those things because she likes doing that! If a girl has a man like point no 2, she will feel free to be herself. So that’s why she does things like those. A normal girl will NEVER sleep with a random guy. (except for sluts).

So better go with the word. Meaning, ONLY if she directly asks you for sex, she’s interested. OTHERWISE SHES NOT. If you force yourself on her, it would be taken as rape/attempt to rape/molestation/ etc.

5. She doesn’t like catcalling.

Some men get flattered by cat calling but women don’t. Never catcall them. Even if your handsome, she won’t like it. Women like attention but not from random men.

Look at the signs and then only assume she likes you. This associate with history because women were subjected to forced sex all the time and this happens even today ( more women are then men) so she will see you as a threat if you catcall or misbehave with her.

So avoid doing this. You are only increasing your chance of being rejected.

6. She loves her family and friends/guardian.

Never say bad about her family or friends because they give her what she wants ( to not be judged and to be able to express herself without being judged). That’s why she has deep respect for them.

She will always talk about the important persons in her life in her daily conversations. Because that’s how she shows she values them. Like how mothers discuss the daily activities of their kids. If you figure out constant person(s) in her daily speech which she talks good about, never talk bad about them in front of her. She hates that.

Avoid talking bad about her parents, family, etc. Although both men and women should avoid talking bad about each other’s important people it is generally seen that a woman will get angrier. She will take out the anger in form of not talking, not responding, or working harshly/angrily.

7. Women like to lie.

The most famous thing about women is that they keep faking appreciations. This is true. But women do this mostly to avoid conflicts. I’ll explain how.

Women are self-conscious. They DO CARE how they are looking. So telling that “oh you look nice” is what they want. Be it from a man or a woman. Most women don’t realize this themselves. That’s why “you look ugly today” will only break the bond of the relationship.

That’s why they lie to each other because women will feel uncomfortable for the entire day if you say “you look ugly today”. I think this also has to do with the past too. In the past, women were supposed to dress in a particular way and if they don’t do that, they mostly got raped or got catcalled or got unnecessary attention which was a threat to their safety. Thus they might have developed this self-conscious attitude.

So, they wanna hear only a positive answer to “how am I looking?”.


8. Most women want you to guess what they want.

This mostly applies to their partners (boyfriends/girlfriends) and not to other people. They like to play the guessing games with you. The reasons can be different – like testing your knowledge about her, testing how your mind works (like do naughty things come in your mind first when asked to guess some action of her or not), or it can be a personal reason too.

You can try guessing nonsensical things. then she will get pissed off and eventually will tell you what she wants.

9. She needs a man in her life.

By man, I mean any man. Dad, brother, boyfriend, friend etc. Women love attention from men but only when the man is known to her and is not looking forward to harming her. This is why woman act different outside and different in the house.

So if she’s complaining about her pains to you, or even telling small things to you, you are an important man in her life whom she can trust. Again, important man is not meant to be boyfriend always. She can still friendzone you. She just wants you to console her. Then she’ll herself deal with the problem. She does the same with women. (which again brings us to point 7)

So you need to tell her that she can do it and deal with this problem. Also, say that you are with her and will support her. It will make her feel happy. 🙂

10. She likes to know what her boyfriend/husband is doing all day.

This I think, also has a connection with history. Women were not allowed to work and they can have a security threat if the man of the house dies. Which can explain why women like to keep a check on what her loved one is doing.

So next time, when she keeps calling you, you can just tell her that your fine and tell her to not call all the time because it can disturb your boss. (this trick will work because she wouldn’t want you to lose your job so if you say your boss is angry, she will get a clue that she’s disturbing you and won’t call again’)

11. Women still have the “how can you say this” in their mind (Which is contradictory to the “feminism” ideology)

What I mean is that, If she cusses you with bad words, she wants to be appreciated for being “strong” but when a man cusses her, she shows you the feminazi card. This exists and women need to accept this that they do this.

How to handle this: both don’t cuss/abuse/assault. (now that is what you call EQUALITY and JUSTICE)

“Freedom of speech people” can go cry and let feminazi ideology win. -_-

So these were some tricks which men can do.


Note: Exceptions are always there. No woman is the same but their characteristics will mostly be same because they all faced the same problems in the past which reflects in their behavior, attention skills, multitasking abilities, etc. But some jerk slut will always be there to ruin things for all women. So that’s why I suggest to find a slut and a normal woman first and then apply these things.

Note 2: I don’t claim these to be right. These are my ideas based on their history, their biology and their mind structure and functions.

Note 3: Sometimes even women don’t know things about them. So some women might feel these are wrong. My answer to them is that they can deny these facts but they can’t deny history and science. Scientific terms are not mentioned here because not all people will understand them.

Note 4: I am a woman myself.

Note 5: According to me, the basic idea of feminism is in points 2,3, and 4. I also feel that women are suppressed especially in Asia and Africa and changes need to happen. I’m a feminist too but not a feminazi. Accept that we can’t run a world without men or even woman. We need both. But I feel western women have more rights and equality than eastern women.

Note 6: I have no idea how the attitude of western women is. so most of these points apply to eastern women and their way of life. Maybe west has the same or it does not. ( i feel they have the same)

Note 7: You will note that most of these points apply to men too. This only proves that men and women are EQUAL. They have equal feelings. But women EXPRESS it more than men. That’s it.



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Helping a family member cope up with mental disease.


According to wikipedia, A mental disorder also called a mental illness or psychiatric disorder, is a behavioral or mental pattern that causes significant distress or impairment of personal functioning.Such features may be persistent, relapsing and remitting, or occur as a single episode. Many disorders have been described, with signs and symptoms that vary widely between specific disorders. Such disorders may be diagnosed by a mental health professional.


There are various ways in which you can help your family member deal with his illness. Here are the Dos and Dont’s :


1. Turn his negatives into positives.    

(Will help in changing his perspective)

2. Ensure he is taking his medicines

3. Treat him as normal as others

(will help them not feel left out)

4. Take help of doctor if the patient has down syndrome, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, etc

( Cause these patients can behave violently)

5. Prepare his favorite food, play his favorite game with him, watch a movie with him and keep him happy 

( of course, with precautions considering the type of disease he has)

6. At the end of the day, talk to him about his day, how he is feeling and tell him that you love him and will support him in his journey of dealing with mental illness

(btw also seriously help him don’t say it for the sake of saying lol )




1. Yelling, teasing, dissing, shouting, beating, and being sarcastic

( his health is more important than your ego)

2. Behaving extremely different.

( change in your behavior towards him can lead to him doubting you all the time)

3. Keeping him in the house/ one room all the time

( going for a walk with him, making him feel free to unknown people and socializing, will help to make him feel safer. but you need to talk to the doctor about the precautions you keep in mind about his particular illness)

4.Keeping him away from his loved and trusted person.

( it can be his friend, his college or his cousin, don’t try to keep him away from them.He will mostly not harm them since he is receiving treatment and is in the recovery process. Being with his trusted people will help him feel happy and safe)

5. Always lecture about his problem

( suggesting things is good but only at that time when he is just a few steps behind being fully recovered. Until then, follow the doctor’s recommendation.)

6 Suggest illogical solutions

( it will not help)

Lastly, he needs your love and support.

He is going through a rough phase. You will never know how he is feeling. Mental diseases and physical diseases have a lot of differences. Never abandon or leave a family member JUST BECAUSE he has a mental disease.


we are not doctors but these techniques are very logical and are written on basis of various psychological theories. To be fully sure of what you should be doing, contact the doctor.

All the best

One world,two sides – Village culture vs city culture


Yesterday I went to my village and wanted to buy something. When asked about the price, the seller said I need not pay the money. Awestruck, I got confused. Why on earth is this man not taking money from me? He said, “You are our guest. We don’t take money from our guests”…

Before people start wondering, my grandfather was from that village and he shifted to the city but he still has a home in the village. We rarely visit the village but when we do, this happens all the time.

I came home with a frowned face. I was like, “Why are the people not taking money? how are they gonna survive without money?” my grandfather said, that people in the village HAVE NEVER seen any cases of theft, murder, rape, etc. So they actually RARELY meet any bad person. Thus, they don’t doubt any random person they meet and treat them like their own. For them, the guest is more like a god than a threat and the poor people will get food by a donation from the rich. I was amazed and my eyes were filled with tears of joy. I have never seen something like this happen…

Then I started to think that why the people in villages and those in cities behave so differently. I mean, hell none will ever not take money from me in the city. In fact, they will fool me and take more money. I realized that people in villages have limited demands. A little house, food, a nice neighborhood and a good family is enough for them. But in the cities, you want a big house, big car, your own “space”, a laptop, computer, Xboxes, and what not. Our demands just don’t stop. A village person will be happy for his neighbor when he buys a car. The city person will be jealous of his neighbor.

Don’t you think our selfishness, our anger, our frustration’s in the city are so much that we ourselves invite thefts and murders? There are poor people in the villages too and not all of them get donations. But they still don’t do theft. Why? because they think that “Why should I take someone else’s money?” No one has taught them to think like this. They have taught THEMSELVES to think like this. Why? Because people around them are like this…

If I tell you, “Don’t give me any money. This is your gift” you will be in tears because you are so amazed at the amount of humanity and love you are getting from a freaking unknown person!!!..

I don’t know about the west but I’m quite sure that every person in the east is getting what I’m saying because they must have experienced the same love when they went to visit their villages.

If some people are not getting what I’m saying, take a look at this man from a small village in India. This man here cooks a huge amount of food DAILY for orphan children. He doesn’t expect a PENNY from them. He is old but still so energetic. His grandchild shoots a video for him and uploads it on YouTube.

Here is the link to one of his videos (Non-sponsored post btw)

This will hardly happen in the city. People are so insensitive that they won’t even take the food from the person who genuinely wants to help them. They will think “He has put poison in it and wants to take money from us by killing us”. Numerous nerve cells, brain activity, everything will work to predict the real purpose of this man and his acts towards them. A villager will quietly take it without even doubting the person…

The city people need to have some sensitivity and some good education about human values. Human values don’t need to be embedded. They automatically are present in us. We just need to express it because this is what the villagers do. They don’t just speak. They act and when they act altogether, the rotten apple between the good apples can turn good too…..

How beautiful is such a society where everyone is happy from within!

Let’s strive to make our cities better.

One day, there will be no sorrow.