Women’s day special : How India can learn from India..


India is the place of extremes. Go two kilometers away from your place, and you will see a change in culture and lifestyle.

But is this diverse culture helping us or harming us? Surely HELPING US. Many Indians don’t even know about India as a country. They know that India is diverse but don’t know HOW and in WHAT WAYS is it diverse…

Here we are going to address how Indian cultures can learn from each other and make India better. Here we are particularly discussing women in different Indian cultures.

First, let’s start with the issues women face particularity in northern India :

  • India has seen a lot of horrible rape cases over the years.
  • The govt is very slow in giving justice.
  • Delhi is ranked really very low on safety for women as well as men. Its a shame for Delhi being a capital.
  • Although women’s safety depends upon region to region and culture to culture, there is a widespread patriarchy like any other Asian culture.
  • Women have “specific jobs” like teaching, NGO, IT, engineering, medical, etc. Only lower caste women are seen doing jobs which are mostly for men in other countries – like construction jobs. If you travel by a local train in Mumbai on Sundays, you will see women repairing railway tracks. Good. But let’s face it – they are doing it because they have to support their family. and not because they wanna do this job on their own…

Of course, no one wants to be a construction worker be it a man or a woman and they do this job for family only. But men at least come to sign up on their own. Women are very much dragged into this for extra help not for “equality” as such…

  • With this we have another point – the women of minority entities, religions and caste in India, are seen doing more participation just like minorities in other countries. But again, it’s not because “I wanna do this. I love this job!”. Its because “I have to do this. I have to support my husband in earning money. This is the only option for me”
  • The most important problem- education and female foeticide. Female foeticide is reduced in India but now abandoning a female child is increasing. Especially, in those places which are very unsafe for women (so they cant even be used for construction jobs). The literacy rate of women is better but still lower than men.

Is there no solution to this? There is. And, guess who has the solution- India itself.

Now let’s see the other extreme :

1. Meghalaya :

The traditional matrilineal system of the Khasi tribe has empowered women in other spheres. In Meghalaya (and in fact much of the north-east), there is :

  • No purdah system imposed on women.
  • There is no restriction on women’s physical movement, nor their attire.
  • There is no bride burning, female infanticide or foeticide and no dowry (there are instead cases of a bride’s price)
  • And there is no social stigma attached to a widow re-marrying.

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2. Kerela :

When it comes to matriarchy, it is clear that there never was any matriarchy in Kerala. However, women in Kerala seem to be more politically empowered than their sisters in Meghalaya. An article in The Hindu says that a large number of women from Kerala participated in the freedom movement. This tradition has stood them in good stead today and there are not surprisingly, 7 women in the Kerala Legislative assembly.

There are other states which are doing well in terms of women’s participation in politics and in other spheres but if one takes into account the status of women in the family and the sex ratio then certainly both Kerala and Meghalaya stand out as shining examples to the rest of India.

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Neighbors to Khasi, this tribe has a similar social formation and also follows the matrilineal methodology to trace property. A Garo family is headed by the mother of the house but the father is responsible for providing sustenance. The tribe is divided into sub-tribes and clans, with marriage outside the tribe highly discouraged.

The daughter of the family carries the clan name throughout her life, whereas the son takes up his wife’s clan name after marriage. If the marriage doesn’t work out, the couple can get separated without any social stigma. Similar to the Khasi tradition, the youngest daughter in a Garo family will inherit the property and if there is no female inheritor within the immediate family, the property passes to the daughter of the mother’s sister.

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As explained earlier, in this post,

The reason why these places have women empowerment are :

  • These cultures support education for all.
  • Women stand for themselves.
  • Women raise a voice against the injustice done to them.
  • Men support women in their fight.

Surprisingly, Meghalaya has less literacy than Delhi. BUT, women say they have better control on their lives despite the literacy rates. So we have an exception here of Meghalaya which is because it is still following its culture. But it is said that literacy rates have now improved a lot which is a good news 🙂


Other states of India which lack women participation can improve their education like Kerela did, and make their states better in women participation.

However, one also needs to understand that if you see these cultures in modern concepts, some of these matrilineal cultures are in fact biased towards men. Which backfires by having more anger in men towards women.

But, I personally think that Northeast and Kerela are really ignored in India because they don’t have “urban cities” like Delhi, Bangalore etc. But seriously, what have these cities achieved? Most people have a stressed life there and half of the life goes in dealing with traffic. Yes, women can “Dress” like they want, but does that mean they get equal treatment? Probably No.

So we can see that matriarchal and patriarchal cultures both have their flaws. But as far as empowerment is concerned, matriarchal cultures have an empowerment in jobs and overall life for both the genders which can be seen in the northeastern cultures…


So basically what we need is to learn from each other. Kerela and Northeast need to have at least one major urban city for having ample jobs because they lack it. They then don’t have to worry about who will get the jobs because, given the embedded women empowerment, both the genders are gonna get jobs, not just men. Kerela even has transgender empowerment.So even transgenders can have jobs.

The patriarchal society of rest of India, can learn from northeast and Kerela and adopt their means of women empowerment because they lack it. It will provide jobs for all and overall happiness, prosperity, better sex ratio, and solve many of their existing problems.


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How to understand women..


Women and their minds are complex. Thus, “women are difficult to understand” is often quoted. If we want to understand women, we need to understand why they behave in a certain way and how to deal with it…

Here’s how you can understand women…

1. Just like men like beautiful women, women like handsome men.

This is why when an ugly man approaches them, they retaliate. They hate ugly men. DEAL WITH THIS. But this ugly men theory applies most of the time for strangers. If she’s your office mate, college mate, etc then she would be okay to talk to you. She will befriend you but you won’t be her first choice as a “lover”. She might come back to you if she’s betrayed and realizes you were better but that only proves my point that you’re not her first choice if you’re ugly.

2. Most of them like men who give them freedom.

Although it is up to the personal choice of a woman who she would choose as a partner, most of them like guys which let them speak, let them be free and independent and most of all – which can love them and keep them happy. Just take the example of a dad (because for a woman, a dad is her favorite man on this planet)

A dad loves his daughter, a dad protects her, a dad even lets her take a stand, lets her do what she wants and let her act childish. Women like to express themselves a lot. They like to dress up, go shopping or even like to do guy-like things. In their eyes, they should not be said that “you are a woman, you should not do this”. This is when they will get angry (anybody will).

Bottom line: don’t underestimate their capabilities and let them express themselves in front of you or even the world.

3.They like to joke and fool around.

Yes, they do!! But the world just magically assumes that a woman can’t be funny. But they can! Sometimes they just wanna joke with you. You can tell that by their face – happy face with curious eyes and smile. They like to touch and slap you just for fun. Nothing wrong with that. So next time you see a girl joking around, just be normal! she likes to joke and just because she’s joking, does not mean she wants to sleep with you.

This is the most important thing which guys misunderstand. You may say that “oh, of course, I know this” but in reality, you fall in love with her the moment she smiles. But she was just willing to joke around like a normal person. And that’s why girls always ask “Why do you love me?” because, in their eyes, they were just being normal. Joking around like a normal person.

You should not fall for her only because of her beauty or her body(women should also not do this to men). Women like people who also recognize their work and achievements more than their beauty.

4. Most of the time she’s NOT ASKING FOR IT.

Many people have wrong notions that if a woman exposes skin, behaves like men, or does other “unusual” things, she’s asking for it. No! she’s doing those things because she likes doing that! If a girl has a man like point no 2, she will feel free to be herself. So that’s why she does things like those. A normal girl will NEVER sleep with a random guy. (except for sluts).

So better go with the word. Meaning, ONLY if she directly asks you for sex, she’s interested. OTHERWISE SHES NOT. If you force yourself on her, it would be taken as rape/attempt to rape/molestation/ etc.

5. She doesn’t like catcalling.

Some men get flattered by cat calling but women don’t. Never catcall them. Even if your handsome, she won’t like it. Women like attention but not from random men.

Look at the signs and then only assume she likes you. This associate with history because women were subjected to forced sex all the time and this happens even today ( more women are then men) so she will see you as a threat if you catcall or misbehave with her.

So avoid doing this. You are only increasing your chance of being rejected.

6. She loves her family and friends/guardian.

Never say bad about her family or friends because they give her what she wants ( to not be judged and to be able to express herself without being judged). That’s why she has deep respect for them.

She will always talk about the important persons in her life in her daily conversations. Because that’s how she shows she values them. Like how mothers discuss the daily activities of their kids. If you figure out constant person(s) in her daily speech which she talks good about, never talk bad about them in front of her. She hates that.

Avoid talking bad about her parents, family, etc. Although both men and women should avoid talking bad about each other’s important people it is generally seen that a woman will get angrier. She will take out the anger in form of not talking, not responding, or working harshly/angrily.

7. Women like to lie.

The most famous thing about women is that they keep faking appreciations. This is true. But women do this mostly to avoid conflicts. I’ll explain how.

Women are self-conscious. They DO CARE how they are looking. So telling that “oh you look nice” is what they want. Be it from a man or a woman. Most women don’t realize this themselves. That’s why “you look ugly today” will only break the bond of the relationship.

That’s why they lie to each other because women will feel uncomfortable for the entire day if you say “you look ugly today”. I think this also has to do with the past too. In the past, women were supposed to dress in a particular way and if they don’t do that, they mostly got raped or got catcalled or got unnecessary attention which was a threat to their safety. Thus they might have developed this self-conscious attitude.

So, they wanna hear only a positive answer to “how am I looking?”.


8. Most women want you to guess what they want.

This mostly applies to their partners (boyfriends/girlfriends) and not to other people. They like to play the guessing games with you. The reasons can be different – like testing your knowledge about her, testing how your mind works (like do naughty things come in your mind first when asked to guess some action of her or not), or it can be a personal reason too.

You can try guessing nonsensical things. then she will get pissed off and eventually will tell you what she wants.

9. She needs a man in her life.

By man, I mean any man. Dad, brother, boyfriend, friend etc. Women love attention from men but only when the man is known to her and is not looking forward to harming her. This is why woman act different outside and different in the house.

So if she’s complaining about her pains to you, or even telling small things to you, you are an important man in her life whom she can trust. Again, important man is not meant to be boyfriend always. She can still friendzone you. She just wants you to console her. Then she’ll herself deal with the problem. She does the same with women. (which again brings us to point 7)

So you need to tell her that she can do it and deal with this problem. Also, say that you are with her and will support her. It will make her feel happy. 🙂

10. She likes to know what her boyfriend/husband is doing all day.

This I think, also has a connection with history. Women were not allowed to work and they can have a security threat if the man of the house dies. Which can explain why women like to keep a check on what her loved one is doing.

So next time, when she keeps calling you, you can just tell her that your fine and tell her to not call all the time because it can disturb your boss. (this trick will work because she wouldn’t want you to lose your job so if you say your boss is angry, she will get a clue that she’s disturbing you and won’t call again’)

11. Women still have the “how can you say this” in their mind (Which is contradictory to the “feminism” ideology)

What I mean is that, If she cusses you with bad words, she wants to be appreciated for being “strong” but when a man cusses her, she shows you the feminazi card. This exists and women need to accept this that they do this.

How to handle this: both don’t cuss/abuse/assault. (now that is what you call EQUALITY and JUSTICE)

“Freedom of speech people” can go cry and let feminazi ideology win. -_-

So these were some tricks which men can do.


Note: Exceptions are always there. No woman is the same but their characteristics will mostly be same because they all faced the same problems in the past which reflects in their behavior, attention skills, multitasking abilities, etc. But some jerk slut will always be there to ruin things for all women. So that’s why I suggest to find a slut and a normal woman first and then apply these things.

Note 2: I don’t claim these to be right. These are my ideas based on their history, their biology and their mind structure and functions.

Note 3: Sometimes even women don’t know things about them. So some women might feel these are wrong. My answer to them is that they can deny these facts but they can’t deny history and science. Scientific terms are not mentioned here because not all people will understand them.

Note 4: I am a woman myself.

Note 5: According to me, the basic idea of feminism is in points 2,3, and 4. I also feel that women are suppressed especially in Asia and Africa and changes need to happen. I’m a feminist too but not a feminazi. Accept that we can’t run a world without men or even woman. We need both. But I feel western women have more rights and equality than eastern women.

Note 6: I have no idea how the attitude of western women is. so most of these points apply to eastern women and their way of life. Maybe west has the same or it does not. ( i feel they have the same)

Note 7: You will note that most of these points apply to men too. This only proves that men and women are EQUAL. They have equal feelings. But women EXPRESS it more than men. That’s it.



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